Releasing on April 1st and now available for pre-order, Bachelorx is a new nonbinary memoir that centres queer love, plural identity as a neurodivergence, and the refusal to be defined by labels that conform with straight or neurotypical standards–especially in the search for love and sex.
Bachelorx is the latest book by award-winning queer, nonbinary author, filmmaker, and performer Skylar Lyralen Kaye (fae/they). Their work explores queer relationships and identity, gender expansiveness, and the ways people form families – both chosen and inherited.
The book follows Kaye, depicted through the protagonist Orpheus, newly single after a decades-long queer marriage, as they naively step into the challenges of contemporary online dating later in life. Orpheus experiences their inner life as made up of multiple voices, all of which are present as queer relationships unfold. The book traces attraction, desire, conflict, humour, and care as they are experienced across this plural inner world, offering a vivid and often funny portrait of queer intimacy.
At its core, Bachelorx takes an affirming stance: being gender nonconforming and multiple is not a problem to be solved. The book treats both gender and plurality as a meaningful way of being, shaped by experiences and relationships.
‘ This book grew out of my experience navigating queer dating later in life, including all the excitement, uncertainty, and unique challenges that come with it,’ Kaye says. ‘As a nonbinary person living with multiple inner voices, I wanted to show how plurality shapes the way I experience love, desire, and connection. I wrote Bachelorx to let complexity remain visible, honor the messiness and joy of queer relationships, and treat both plurality and queerness as spaces for care, intimacy, and possibility. My hope is that readers who share these experiences – or who are simply curious about them – can see themselves reflected, feel less alone, and approach their own inner worlds with honesty, trust, and compassion.’
Moving through dating, long-term partnership, family history, and chosen family, Bachelorx foregrounds relationships and celebrates queer intimacy without apology or simplification. At the same time, the memoir explores life with multiple internal voices, showing how different aspects of the self shape desire, care, and connection – always from lived experience rather than theory.
Readers familiar with Kaye’s earlier work – including Assigned Female at Birth, Many Trump Refugees in One Body (My Preferred Pronoun Is We), and My Mother and the Nun – will recognise their signature blend of humour, emotional intelligence, and political clarity.
Tina D’Elia, a multi-award-winning poet, solo performer, and creator of Overlooked Latinas, praises the memoir’s range and honesty: ‘Skylar Lyralen Kaye’s memoir, Bachelorx, explodes with humor, healing, and heartbreak. The magical protagonist Orpheus invites us into the loud commentary of their inner people – which is sacred, touching, and hilarious. Kaye takes us on an epic modern journey of a new Orpheus and their Eurydice. Across bays, oceans, lovers, seasons of loss, reliving trauma, and dating, Kaye’s humor is fiercely bold and badass, while inspiring us to fight like our lives depend upon it – in order to live and love radically, fully, holistically – loving all ourselves.’
At a time when queer people are often pressured to simplify themselves, explain their identities, or make themselves legible to others, Bachelorx offers something sustaining: a book that trusts complexity, celebrates plurality, and treats queer love as expansive, resilient, and deeply human.
